Book Mini-Review: The Road Back to You by Ian Cron & Suzanne Stabile
“Once you know your type, you owe it to yourself and the people you love (or don’t love, for that matter) to become a kinder, more compassionate presence in the world.”
I have heard about the Enneagram for a while now, but have never really been able to peg my Enneagram number down. I read Anne Bogel’s Reading People earlier this year and thought I was either a Nine or a One. Because her book looked at many different personality frameworks and was not able to go into too many specifics on the Enneagram, I could not definitively say what my Enneagram number was. She then had Ian Cron on the What Should I Read Next? podcast, and I decided to request his book, The Road Back to You, from the library. Even as I read the book, I still had a hard time deciding between a Nine and a One, and then wondered briefly if I was a Six. But after finishing the book and listening to Ian Cron’s Typology podcast with a panel of Nines, I have decided that yes, I am a Nine with a One wing. Which really bummed me out when I discovered the Parks & Rec Enneagram Twitter account (#JerryLarryTerryGary). But I think knowing what my number is and why I feel the way I do about things will help me in relationships and function as a healthy individual.
I’ve never been big into personality frameworks, but after reading and listening to Anne Bogel talk about the Enneagram, I decided I should find out what my number was. If nothing else, then for the references people make online so I could be in the know. I have always tried my best to avoid conflict; I am a people pleaser at heart, so as I was reading the chapter on Nines, I felt it best described me. But at the same time, I was kind of sad reading about unhealthy Nines, so I am going to try my best to not shut down like most unhealthy Nines do. Reading the section on stress and security was very illuminating for me; in times of stress, Nines act like unhealthy Sixes (anxious and overcommitted), but in times of security, Nines act like healthy Threes (decisive and self-confident). Right now, I am probably an average Nine, exhibiting both unhealthy Six and healthy Three tendencies.
The Road Back to You was a great starting point for the Enneagram. Cron and Stabile weave in a lot of personal stories of friends and family members to best exemplify different Enneagram numbers, which was helpful. I also suggest listening to Ian Cron’s Typology podcast to get a better sense on some of the numbers. That really helped bring it all home for me. If you have been curious about the Enneagram, I definitely recommend this book. I give it 4 stars.
What is your Enneagram number?